I use a wheelchair and I'm tired of nondisabled partners telling me how I should handle my health
• I've dated more than one nondisabled person who seemed to assume they knew what was best for me.
• They offered unsolicited advice about how to deal with my health.
• Here's what I want in a partner and what would make me feel loved and listened to.
"Go to church, and you will be healed as God will forgive your sins — God wants to forgive you."
These words appeared on my cracked phone screen, the reply of a dating-app match after I disclosed my disability and that I was a wheelchair user.